Reflection: Pre-Cana Seminar

I attended a pre-cana seminar held at San Agustin Parish, San Agustin Church, Intramuros, Manila on March 28, 2015.

At first, I did not know what I would be hearing from the seminar, I thought it was only the do's and don'ts of a married life. But moreover, it gave me insights of what to expect in a married life from a perspective of an "expert". There are surely lot of things to learn throughout an experience of being married, and it depends on one's decision on how to approach challenges to conquer it with his/her partner. The time being married to a partner, is time to get to know one another more and learn each other's secrets, strengths and weaknesses. Through the speaker, I can see that she is contented with her partner in life and does not ask for more. I realize that if I am to have a good relationship in the future, I should learn to be more caring, more understanding, and be contented with what I have (if not, it directly leads to the 7 Deadly Sins). Furthermore, once I marry my partner in life, we will be living together forever, just like in what is written in the marriage vows, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." It is a very strong line to uphold in the future and the test of time will puncture it. Life is full of challenges, so as being married to another individual. It creates even more excitement in life as proportional to the challenges and problems that are awaiting to be solved by the couple together. Relating it to my parent's situation, if one of them has a problem, the other has to know so they can solve it together, may it be financially, physically, spiritually. A good example would be my mother had stage 2 breast cancer, it was December 2012, and my father did his all to secure the funds needed to pay the medical bills of my mother. He always made himself present with her during her time of need, we were there as well. There I saw the love and bond that my parents have, and what I may be experiencing in the future. I realized that if one really loves his/her partner, he/she would go to a whole different level of making her feel that the partner is the most important person in his/her life. I see the importance of attending a pre-cana seminar before pursuing a wedding.

For the quote: "Life is what you make it." It made so much sense to me, as nobody can tell me what to do and control my life except for myself. I should not care on what other people think of me, except for my life partner. This is because she will always be there for me when the time comes that I need utmost help, and for sure I will always be there for her.

It has been a good experience to attend such a meaningful seminar. I have now gained a glimpse of what is to come in the future of my relationship and the path that I have chosen. It might be a different situation for different couples, but nonetheless there is no obstacle that a couple can't overcome.